I was singing that John Legend song to myself whilst I typed this title. You know, that one about perfect imperfections. Despite the fact that the music video to “All Of Me” looks like soft porn (go on, tell me it doesn’t), John has a point. Loving someone is all about loving the package deal that they come with, and how can we possibly be able to do that if we don’t learn to love our own package deal first? I’m all about that self-love and nothing makes me happier than meeting people who appreciate others because of their flaws, rather than despite them.
Minor digression – can we still apply the “flaw” label to these qualities if we love someone because of them? That’s a post for another day – stay tuned!
Without further ado, here are five of my favourite flaws.
I just can’t do it. No matter what I try – instrumental, ambient, jazz, lyrics in another language, you name it – I just can’t focus on my work. It’s like trying to talk to one person whilst constantly being interrupted by another.
This is probably the reason I didn’t experiment with eyeliner pens and gel liner until fairly late. Makeup tends to show up much more prominently on one lid than the other, and it can be frustrating to get it looking even on both eyes. Nevertheless, I’ve grown to love them – it’s like a little secret that nobody knows about until they look at me closely enough, and it’s the little things that make me… well, me.
I’m one of those people who tend to harbour grudges for a while if someone has wronged me in any way – lied to me, wrongly accused me, undermined me on a regular basis – you name it. But guess what? I’m learning to use those bitter feelings to my advantage. I’m learning to stand up for myself and constantly push forwards rather than allowing others to fuel the negativity. There just isn’t enough time to stay hateful, I only have one life and I intend to fill as large a proportion of it as I can with love and positivity. And glittery unicorns and rainbows (shush, I know they don’t exist. Unicorns and rainbows are matte, duh).
This applies to almost all aspects of my life. Physically, emotionally, etc. I have often been hurt by things people say, when they barely realise the implications of the things that come out of their mouths. I have also come to realise that this is an invaluable strength of mine. I intuitively notice things that most people don’t, whether in daily life, music, art, or literature. Being able to do this makes me a better listener, and I like that about myself. To any of you who have been called sensitive in a fit of rage – smile kindly and say thank you. Don’t let anyone tell you that being sensitive is a bad thing.
The bottom line is I didn’t want to be that kid who had glasses AND braces. So I put it off for as long as I could, and one day I just decided to embrace it. Bunny nerd girl with glasses. It’s worked for me so far.
What are some of your own favourite flaws? I’d love to hear what you think of categorising flaws as a concept in itself. Let me know in the comments! You go girl.
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