I’m Messy… Or Am I?

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I’m messy. Or organised chaos? Probably something my mother will never understand. The kind that sends people running for the hills when they see my bedroom for the first time and also the kind that makes me all warm and happy inside when I get home.

I currently have my favourite striped hoodie thrown over my desk chair, pressed powders falling over themselves all over my dresser and a selection of coursework laid out on my desk (and floor). Bed unmade? Check.

See, here’s the thing. Tidiness and organisation are typically synonymous with success. Without any doubt. Just google “how to be more successful” or “how to get my shit together” and I’ll bet my bottom dollar that those two words will be in there (and no, not for SEO purposes). But even then – why are they so culturally significant and how did we arrive to the conclusion that tidier = better at life?

Let’s think about it. By making my bed in the mornings, I’m spending extra time. I’m using precious time and energy that could be spent on making breakfast or getting an extra 30 seconds of sleep. Don’t you shake your head at me.

But once I make my bed, my room just looks better. Everything looks more put together, it just looks cleaner and my bed looks Ikea-showroom-worthy. But that’s all it is – it LOOKS better. Pure aesthetics.

It’s not as if making my bed is going to magically clean my bedsheets and make them feel like they’ve just come out of the dryer. It’s not as if making my bed is going to help me feel better after my bout of food poisoning last night. It certainly won’t bring any real benefit to my life apart from looking pretty – all it does is give me extra work to do when I climb into bed at the end of the day. And guess what? My bed gets unmade again.

Why do we do this to ourselves? I’m honestly quite happy coming home to an unmade bed, and I totally understand if you don’t feel the same way. We all have a different definition for a “homely feel” after all.

As for the other stuff strewn around my room – I make it work. They say that a messy space is a sign of creativity, which is probably where the whole relaxed shabby chic came from. You know, the ripped jeans with crater-sized holes and cut-off t-shirts that look like they’ve seen better days. If I don’t have a designated spot for everything, I’ll have to devise clever ways to make them all fit at some point in time. Shopping addicts holler at me, please.

The thing is, I know where everything is. I’ll know which jacket you’ve borrowed, where each of my gazillion brown eyeliner pencils are and which handbag you’ve been snooping through. It looks like a tsunami hit last night, but move one thing and I’ll be thrown off completely. And believe me, I HATE not knowing where something is when I need it most.

So, I guess you could say that I have my own form of the thing called OCD that we so often joke about. Funny, isn’t it – that one person’s pristine is another’s chaos. I’ll leave you with this one, though.

“If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, then what are we to think of an empty desk?”

Tell me what you think in the comments below, I’d love to hear it! And no, I’m not showing you photos of my bedroom.

– J

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Disclaimer: The featured image and Pinterest image were obtained from Pixabay under a Creative Commons license. J takes no responsibility for any unmade beds or chaos that may ensue in your home after reading this. Should those events occur, she offers her full support in spirit, whilst sitting in her unmade bed and drinking yet another cup of tea.

24 Comments on “I’m Messy… Or Am I?”

  1. Love this! I am completely the opposite, a complete OCD where the apartment is like a show home! I am unsettled if things aren’t spotless haha. I think as long as we are true to ourselves and happy who cares. Have an awesome Saturday my love! xxxx

  2. I am with you on not making the bed. Plus by not making the bed, from what I’ve heard (not sure if it’s true), mites won’t congregate. Right now I have to make mine in case someone wants to see my place and I hate it! And we both had food poisoning this week? Yuck ?!!!
    As for everything else, people call that a controlled mess since you know where everything is. ?

  3. Haha I love the quote “If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, then what are we to think of an empty desk?”
    It makes me feel better about my desk, which has a load of stuff dumped on it at the moment!
    I am generally quite tidy, but I think the difference between a messy mess and an organised mess is that with the latter, you know where things are. If you waste loads of time looking for stuff because you have no idea where it is (I’m thinking about the minutes I lose looking for my keys), then that’s not productive. But if things look all over the place but you know which drawer or handbag the thing you want is hiding, then that’s perfectly fine!
    Have a wonderful weekend!

    1. I think I definitely have my messy moments and my tidy moments (usually a burst of energy that contributes to spring cleaning). Totally agree with that organised mess idea, pretty much me in a nutshell! Hope you’re having a lovely weekend too xx

  4. This article really made me smile and I loved reading it. I have to say, I hate cleaning but when I start doing it, I feel ten times better. Making my bed makes me happier for some strange reason – well more content. My only mess is clothing jackets and cardigans which I love throwing over the top of my washing basket lid.
    Oh and I keep putting my main hairbrush in my beauty drawer and then get irritated every morning when it is not near my mirror – so a little laziness there would save me time right!
    Each to their own and if it works for you, it is perfect! xx

    1. Haha we all have our little quirks and it’s interesting how different things work for different people! I definitely do the hairbrush thing too, and the throwing clothes over furniture… thanks for sharing Laura! xx

  5. This is wonderful! I’m always telling people in my family I’m not messy it’s very organized chaos and let me tell you my mom found out when she moved something lolol

  6. I find that I am more successful and productive when I’m not stressing about how organized or clean I am at that moment because I’m not wasting my time and energy on these little (and in the big picture meaningless) things. I don’t mean like old food sitting around and you can’t see the floor, but things like making the bed as you pointed out.

    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca

  7. I always have to make my bed, but I normally do so before sleeping b/c I’ll bring a blanket into the living room, my daughter would jump on the bed so the pillows would be on the floor, etc. so it’s more for practical reasons than looks lol
    But I do like keeping my apartment organized b/c I find it easier to focus on my schoolwork when there’s not a bunch of clutter going on around me

  8. Such a great post! I am actually the opposite and I have to have things neat and tidy or else it drives me crazy! But I say whatever works for you is the best!

  9. I am definitely a organised chaos person but I can work in neat surroundings too (just until I turn them into organised chaos! haha) I always know where things are when I need them.

  10. I understand you. I get bogged down sometimes with constant tidying. I’m very minimilist. Bare shelves apart from a few photos, it makes me feel better and it looks tidier, with less stuff hanging around. I will go to work though and leave my bed unmade.

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